What’s the definition of a "good man" or a "good woman" when it comes to relationships and dating? I’m so tired of hearing my friends say they cant find a good man, then at the same time my male friends are saying its hard to find a good woman. If both sexes are thinking the same thing then it must not be lack of quality. Right?
After speaking to some friends, co workers and family members, it all comes down to the people we are attracted to are not meeting the standards we have set for a mate. Sometimes we have this long list of items that our mate must have or posses. There is nothing wrong with having an idea of what we want but we also must be realistic. First we must see that the type of person were initially attracted to must not be the type of person we want. Sounds confusing but its really not.
Example: if a woman is visually attracted to the “bad boy” image, 9 times out of 10 the guy is going to really be a bad boy. Its very rare that you will find the money making Accountant walking around with baggy clothes on looking like a thug…. Same goes for the men. If a man is attracted to that “video vixen” most likely she isn’t the happy homemaker you take home to momma.
So we have to look at what we are attracted to and possible change our perception to see what we really want. Attraction is only temporary, we need to dig deeper within ourselves and understand it’s the connection that leads to love and everlasting happiness. The attraction is just the icing on the cake.
If we are smart when choosing a partner then we will most likely not have unnecessary drama that comes with some folks relationships. Then we just might be able to say we have a good man or a good woman in our life.
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