Reflection

From time to time I like to do some soul searching and self reflecting. Especially when it comes to relationships or lack thereof.  I acknowledge my flaws and admit to them then seek some much needed feedback from people. Some are friends I know dearly and others may be associated with comments from a post in a face book group or just conversation with mutual friends of friends.
No matter where my feedback comes from I try my best not to get defensive or take the feedback in the wrong way. I enjoy constructive criticism because it only makes me better at being the best me I can be.

Through my feedback it has come cross that I am  “mean” “selfish” “lazy” and lets not forget “spoiled“. All this time I thought that I was the nicest, most giving and hard working. Guess not in the opinion of these situations that I have been called out on.  Its all good because even though my view is different, I can totally see what folks are referring to when those negative words come up.

I’m still a work in progress….to be continued…

Searching for a home so my spirit can grow.

It doesn’t have to be a huge home with skylights and stadium seating, it doesn’t have to have network cameras recording and streaming live from 5 locations and it doesn’t have to have the most popular pastor around.

All it has to have is genuine people who believe, understand and can convey Gods message. 

The churches that I have been to in the past made me feel like I was just a body in a seat sometimes.  No one knew if I missed a Sunday or if I came every Sunday. I want a home where I can walk in and have the good hug and hello from a person who knows my name or at least remembers my face.It feels good to be noticed and makes you want to continue to come back.

I want a bible based church where the focus is not on the man reading the word but on the man behind the word.  The search is on to find that right fit for me, and if you have any suggestions I would love to visit your place of worship.

My spirit is hungry and wants to be fed so that it can grow.  

Quick Snowfall Post

It snowed today in the Washington DC region for a few hours. How pretty it looked falling from the sky but it made for a messy traffic commute home.
I'm not a fan of snow in this area for more that a few reasons but mainly people don't know how to drive in it and i'm still traumatized by the snow that blocked the beltway and roadways causing everyone a 4-6 hour trip home.
So I decided to stay at work for an extra hour to let the traffic die down and drive home stress free.
It was well worth the wait. While it took some of my co workers up to 2 hours to drive home It only took me 45 minutes just by waiting an hour.
Tomorrow the snow fall will be just a memory but at least we can say we survived the first real snowfall of 2012.

The Break Up

The infamous break up. Everyone goes through it at some point or another in your dating life. The question is are you the breaker or the break-e?  Its so hard to do and even for the people to claim to be the most strong can get weak when it comes to this topic.  Do you send the message through a mutual friend, do you just stop answering phone calls and hope they get the message or do you turn to technology to do it?
It has been made so easy to break up with someone via technology, such as a text message, email, or even through a facebook status. How is it that we can have sex and share intimate moments with a person but we cant tell them how we really feel for fear of hurting their feelings?
Don't you think by stringing them along or by not giving them the deserved respect is hurting them more?

Just something to think about...Its always going to be moments in the relationship when both parties are not on the same page. My motto is communication is key to everything you do. so as hard as it might seem the best thing is to communicate with them, let them know how you feel and please don't hide behind 3rd party technology.

Happy New Year 2012!

WOW, its 2012 and just like every year that passes we say it went by so fast. Where the heck did 2011 go and do we have anything to show for it?
Well not sure about you but my year was filled with a wide range of experiences, emotions and challenges. I’ve let some things go, held on to some and dreamed of others. Overall I am entering into this year with a different way of approaching situations and improving my communication skills.

My goal for this blog is to post more and hopefully get more of a discussion and feedback from you my lovely readers.

Remember this bog is My Therapy, a inside look at my thoughts
and some of what I go through. From speaking to a few of my readers I understand a lot of us feel the same or have similar thoughts but I have just been able to put it into writing.

I hope you all have a great start to your year and continue to be successful all the way to the finish line.

Tough Murder

Has anyone heard of this? It’s a stupid crazy obstacle course that a few of my co workers decided to do over the past weekend.
You go through a 10-12 mile course that designed by British special forces to test your endurance and strength. First let me say that whoever does this and finishes has my respect because I could never get up the courage to do it. Not only do you crawl thru mud and walk thru fire but you also get zapped by live electrical wires. Like I said its stupid crazy but its all for a good cause I guess. They raise money for wounded warriors… anyway take a look for yourself by visiting the link below.

http://www.toughmudder.com/?gclid=CPKmgaGYhawCFcx-5QodOyE5-A&utm_medium=cpc&WT.term=mudder+race&utm_campaign=Mud+run+search&utm_source=google&WT.medium=cpc&WT.campaign=Mud+run+search&WT.srch=1&WT.content=text&WT.source=google&WT.mc_ev=google&utm_content=&WT.mc_id=google.Mud+run+search&utm_term=mudder+race&cshift_ck=b501bcd9-e2d6-40af-9594-bd6b71851a4acsqWWEFfvg

Now you know they are crazy for that !

Question

Ever feel like your stuck at a cross road in life sometime? Like your trying to figure out what to do, where to go and what decisions will make or break you? Well I know I have been feeling that way a lot lately. I am working on my personal growth and development in all aspects such as job, parenting, relationships and spiritually. While doing this I have come to a reoccurring question. How do you continue to press forward and not fall back in a comfort zone that once was you? Its so easy to go back when things become challenging. I know its part of life and you cant get to where you want to be by doing the same thing. BUT ITS SO EASY! Its so easy to do things the old way because you already know the outcome and your comfortable with it. I would love some feedback on this. Were you able to go forward or stay in your comfort zone?