I must say this holiday season had a diferent feeling to me than last year. I didnt put up a tree till the week before Christmas and I wasnt going to buy anyone a gift.
Then all of a sudden, two nights before christmas I felt the spirit to give. Me and a friend of mine went out on the 24th and shopped with all the other last min shoppers.
I was able to give all of my imediate family a gift and it felt good. Wish I had more to give but the family knows my situation. I felt blessed giving and I was truly blessed with what I recieved. This year I recieved a lot of things I truly needed and wanted. (still no husband under the tree) but Me and Santa are talking about that for next year. :-)
Tuesday, December 28, 2010
Sunday, December 12, 2010
I know Ive Been Changed
Things I would deal with I no longer have time for. I know I've been changed and its for the better.
Have you ever noticed how one word, one action or one gesture can change a persons view of how they feel about you? It could be that what you did reminds them of someone or something. Be it good or bad, we should all be careful of our actions and what we say. Especially to those we have an interest in because one little thing can turn them off and change the direction of your friendship or relationship.
Example: I have a male friend that just came out of a situation and I have been a listening ear, a counselor and overall support for this person. Well he said a few things that didn't sit well with me and as a friend I brought it to his attention. He said he understood and wouldn't say it again. The very next day not only did he say the same thing but he added another element to it. After that moment I was totally turned off. I didn't want to talk to him on the phone, hang out with him or listen to his problems anymore.From that, my view of him changed in a negative way.
There was a time when I would have looked over something like that and continue to try and be there for this person. However my recent change and transition with self will not allow me to. Its my choice and I know that the friendship will end up being toxic and block me from getting to where I need to be spiritually.
The same goes with new people I meet. If your intentions are being a potential mate, I now look at how you handle stress, your spending habits and how you take care of your children if you have them. Its amazing how the lord shows us what we want, what we like and what we need. Its up to us to make a good decision and choose wisely. One quote I took from today's church service. "Change when you need to so you don't have to change when you have to." I'm changing to get to my next level.
Have you ever noticed how one word, one action or one gesture can change a persons view of how they feel about you? It could be that what you did reminds them of someone or something. Be it good or bad, we should all be careful of our actions and what we say. Especially to those we have an interest in because one little thing can turn them off and change the direction of your friendship or relationship.
Example: I have a male friend that just came out of a situation and I have been a listening ear, a counselor and overall support for this person. Well he said a few things that didn't sit well with me and as a friend I brought it to his attention. He said he understood and wouldn't say it again. The very next day not only did he say the same thing but he added another element to it. After that moment I was totally turned off. I didn't want to talk to him on the phone, hang out with him or listen to his problems anymore.From that, my view of him changed in a negative way.
There was a time when I would have looked over something like that and continue to try and be there for this person. However my recent change and transition with self will not allow me to. Its my choice and I know that the friendship will end up being toxic and block me from getting to where I need to be spiritually.
The same goes with new people I meet. If your intentions are being a potential mate, I now look at how you handle stress, your spending habits and how you take care of your children if you have them. Its amazing how the lord shows us what we want, what we like and what we need. Its up to us to make a good decision and choose wisely. One quote I took from today's church service. "Change when you need to so you don't have to change when you have to." I'm changing to get to my next level.
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
not much today
It’s been a few weeks since I have posted something and to be honest I haven’t had much motivation lately. I have my moments where something happens and I think to myself “I should blog about that.” But I have not been feeling it. I guess with being busy at work, the holidays and me trying to be a counselor to friends I have put my thoughts on the back burner. Oh well, I will be back as soon a things calm down or I have time to focus on me. *hugs*
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